As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17
Shuana and her Savor devotional continue to make even the earliest of mornings a little sweeter. If you have been following the blog for a while, you may remember that this daily devotional is like my jam this year. You see all those Jesus Calling excerpts and Instagram posts on your newsfeed every morning? Your friends, family, strangers, maybe even you have been so nourished by the little words on the page? Well, Savor is like my Jesus Calling… I’m right there with ya friends, I’m totally convinced God and Shuana are talking directly to me! Hello!
Yesterday’s reading began with Proverbs 27:17: As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
This verse has become one of my favorites because it is one that I value and rely on so much. It always makes me chuckle though, because I didn’t always understand the meaning. I remember doing a Google search several years ago for “Bible verses on Friendship.” I was trying to find a cutesy quote for a Christmas gift I was making for a few of my close girlfriends. It was not cutesy, but it was the appropriate length for the space I wanted to fill. And it definitely went better with my pink and green themed gift than some of the other options which included fun words like “fools, adulterous, wicked..” Yes, this one would have to do. I used my context clues and basic understanding of analogies to confirm it was good. Over time, I have experienced this verses in such real and powerful ways. What once was kind of vague is now super focused and super awesome.
Back to Savor, take a moment and read…
I LOVE THIS! In our relationships, we need both heat and force. “Heat is trust and force is truth, and transformation through friendship doesn’t happen without both of those things being present.” God continues to reinforce the importance of real community. I wrote in a previous blog, “One of my core beliefs is that God is just as concerned with me living a meaningful and purposeful life on this Earth as He is in my eternal soul. This life is a gift. Our trials and obstacles remind us of our need for Him, but I believe he reveals to us everyday and through other people His character: his kindness, goodness, and love.”
Out of community comes friendship, and within a meaningful friendship there is a beautiful place for accountability. But there must be first REAL RELATIONSHIP, REAL TRUST, AND REAL LOVE. Without those, authentic accountability is lost. Speaking truth with no trust is not the way. In fact, it is void of any transformative power and love.
If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:1-7)
This, my sweet friends is the FOUNDATION! We have to begin first by understanding His radically and saving love of us and then and only then, can we be moved to authentically love others.
I have shared some here how accountability has played a large role in my growth and development. Similarly to my convos2connect mission, I believe in the power of story and that we all have one to tell. I believe that strength is found in connection and listening to each other. I attribute some of my greatest lessons, healing, and personal growth to meaningful friendships.
It requires intention, and I think accountability(iron sharpening iron) is one of the most precious elements that can be added to a meaningful friendship.
In a season that is ever changing and ever challenging, I am so grateful that even when I am tempted to let my “knives dull”—that my family and friends(including you guys) are in my life.
I look forward to talking more with you about how having an #accountabilityally is transformative and truly life changing. Friends, we are designed to be joy filled movement makers, so let’s get to going with it and let’s start with good old fashioned real love!
I would love to hear from you. What does friendship look like in your life? Do you feel like you have or perhaps lack authentic deep friendships? Do you internally seek accountability or is it hard for you? Do you even know where to begin?
What about isolation? Are you inviting people into your life or do you find yourself making excuses or stuck in fear?
Send me a message. Comment below. Share this with your community and discuss.
This conversation is only beginning and I am excited about talking more and moving together towards action for you. #accountabilityally
Being on the road and away from my regular routine is tough but heck, when you are wearing a bold reminder, it surely helps!! Get you one.